feat: unify and enhance the lifecycle of an instance (#1440)

* feat: add lifecycle state management and color coding for instance statuses

* feat: enhance instance lifecycle management with state derivation and UI updates

* feat: improve resource handling in informer with enhanced error reporting

* feat: enhance instance lifecycle logging with detailed merge and delete events

* feat: implement ResourceKeyProvider interface for consistent key generation in informers

* refactor: refactor instance resource handling and key function resolution in informers

* refactor: remove unused deployState and registerState columns from instance table

* feat: enhance runtime instance retrieval with improved matching logic and fallback handling

* feat: improve runtime instance identification with enhanced error logging and filtering

* feat: add pod watch selector and RPC port identifiers for improved service configuration

* feat: add refresh button and localization support for improved user interaction

* fix: fix lint

* feat: enhance runtime instance retrieval with improved fallback handling and logging for ambiguous matches

* fix: enhance instance lifecycle and deployment state management with new types and improved data handling